March 15, 2011 § 7 Comments
It may seem unimaginable, why would you want to come out to your coach? In talking with my peers that I counsel, a coach’s reaction to learning we are gay is a common fear – and not without reason. Especially amongst male teams, a fog of homophobia has fallen and severed relationships between coaches and athletes. Some coaches are homophobic and others are macho-centric; most are relatively indifferent coaches simply trying to help. It is important to differentiate between the three, as only one “type” of coach really poses a threat – and I use the word type loosely as I find it best not to categorize people. Yet more often than not, our coaches fall into the latter two categories and honestly just want to help – with our sport that is. « Read the rest of this entry »
March 3, 2011 § 7 Comments
How would you feel if mere minutes after your boyfriend said his goodbyes as he drove away from your school, you receive a voicemail saying: “I don’t exactly – we just – we just got into an accident. The car is totaled.” If you’re anything like me, you may chuckle at the absurdity of what was said, more so out of disbelief than actual humor. He must be joking, obviously. Then your mind begins to rationalize the situation and process the fact that he called therefore he must be somewhat unharmed. You hope. Yet even after rationalizing, your stomach turns and you begin immediately to run to the accident site.